When fads don’t fit

How not to loose yourself following disposable fads. Click through to find out how.

I’d been looking for a chambray shirt for months. After seeing great fashion Pinterest pins mentioning the shirt, I wanted to add it to my wardrobe selection.

It was blue, it was comfortable. It seemed perfect. Until it wasn’t.

Against my skin color, the chambray shirt gives me a hue of illness (definitely not the look I was going for). Yet I’ve held on to it for months, wore it several times, kept hoping, somehow, that the dress combos (and myself) would look as good as those Pinterest photos.

But it just didn’t work with me. Just like plaid pants were not my thing in 8th grade (although they were available at every single retail store during that fall fashion season).

So why did I purchase it in the first place? Why was this piece of clothing still in my closet?

Fads are great for providing a starting point. There is nothing wrong with understanding what is out there, what is available, what is working for a large group of people. And when we are just learning something, fads showcase a path to go from inexperienced to experience gained. As we attempt to fit a fad into our lives, we become better at gauging what works with us and what does not.

It is good to acknowledge that fads may work with our lives, with our styles, for a while. Until they don’t. Because essentially that’s what fads are: temporary, a starting point. After some time, they begin to fade, and it falls on us to come up with Fad 2.0, an updated version, an uplevel that can meet our more current, higher level needs.

It is also good to acknowledge that fads are “disposable” – because the hype for the customer needs to exist non-stop, no one fad can have a lifespan of longer than a couple of months.

Think about that: we crave, sometimes unnaturally, items or actions that are disposable. We utilize our resources (time and money) to fit in, to follow fads that will keep us running forever, as we go from fad to fad to fad to (you get the drift).

When we incorporate the fad into our live, we realize that

a. The fad doesn’t quite work for us (the color is off, the style isn’t right for our body type, the food that everyone is eating is causing us to break out in hives, the productivity fad doesn’t take into account our learning style)

b> With wanting to fit in, we stick with the fad longer than necessary. It works for “everyone else” – if I stick with it for just a little while longer, maybe it will work for me, maybe I’ll find the magic bean that will make everything work just right.

c. With realizing we spent resource and time, we feel committed to at least getting our money’s worth. We stick with it longer than necessary just to be able to say with conviction that it really didn’t work for us.

Paying attention to fads can provide a great starting point: to spark your own ideas and passions. Following the fads, spending time on disposable actions and items, that’s another deal all together. Better to spend that time on practicing things that will last you a lifetime: choosing what is right for you, identifying what works for you best, feeling comfortable with your own choice.


About Pia

I love sharing purposeful, thought-provoking experiences. I write action-oriented blog stories, to empower women to attain their best life. When I'm not studying life, I'm trying my best to live it, by drawing, gardening, and attempting to design my own unique clothes. Connect with me on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram!

I love sharing purposeful, thought-provoking experiences with women who are going through life transitions. I write action-oriented blog stories, to empower women to attain their best life.
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