“Be the best you now and watch everything else click into place”—Anonymous
Growing up, we waited for our bodies to develop so that we could say we were women instead of girls. We waited some more to fully develop. It seemed like all we were doing was waiting to grow into something better. Are we doing ourselves a disservice by thinking we need to keep waiting to grow into our best self, fulfill our passion and purpose?
Whether it is waiting for our bodies to change from pubescent to womanhood or searching for our best self, this life of ours seems to be always about waiting, about not having the right body or having the right stuff or doing the right thing.
While we wait, we work to fix ourselves. We fix and fix in an attempt to identify a life purpose that is just out of our reach. We keep fixing and looking forward because we haven’t received a big, bold, plain statement sign that points straight to our life purpose. We work to fix ourselves because in comparison to everyone around us, we aren’t the best that a human being can be (there are tons of photos out there showing us just how much better other people are).
It is true that as human beings we are always looking for the next challenge, the next lesson, the next way to keep growing and adapting. It’s human nature – otherwise we really are wasting our time here, don’t you think?
Yet a necessary question to interject here is this: if we are always looking for the next challenge, then how does finding the ONE and ONLY life purpose, identifying it, help us grow? Wouldn’t finding our one life purpose actually stop our self-development right there and then? I mean, if we identify it, then we really wouldn’t have anything else to strive towards.
Looking for a better tomorrow ignores the best today
We could find a life mission, a life statement, but that in itself does not define, without any doubts, what our purpose is.
Because just like us humans, who are always changing and adapting, our life purpose will also change as we progress through life. If that doesn’t quite resonate, take a look at our bodies as the perfect example: hair color changes, our skin cells migrate towards a looseness as we age, our taste buds change. We are always continuously physically changing.
What was your purpose, your reason for waking up, when you were thirteen? What was your purpose for waking up when you were twenty-six? What is your purpose for waking up at forty-three?
While there may be similarities in what drives you to wake up each morning, throughout your decades of living, the purpose for what you did during those decades has changed. That purpose has changed just as you have. You know more today than you did ten years ago, and God willing, you will know more in 10 years from now than you know today.
Thinking of identifying one sole life purpose, and throwing an anchor towards it as it is in the future, causes us to do one thing.
It causes us to miss the present. It causes us to miss looking at ourselves today and seeing the beauty of who we are in this very moment. It causes us to see that we are the best version of ourselves right now. And we will be the best version of ourselves tomorrow, with a slight difference – we will have learned something today that makes us expand our strength, so tomorrow’s best self will be better.
Your purpose, your best self, is not a destination in the future and only in the future. Your purpose is here today. Live intentionally in the moment of now and your purpose will just about smack you in the face like a ton of bricks.(Want some more tips on how to live intentionally today? Check this post for action tips.)
Say hello to your best self
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”–Carl Gustav Jung
Your best self is present right here, right now. It’s not shaming you from the future, stating that you haven’t yet earned enough brownie points, done enough looking at your weaknesses, to gain permission to know your best self.
She is right here, right now. She encompasses all the joy you have compiled throughout your life, as well as all the grace of forgiving yourself for mistakes made and lessons learned.
By looking for a future purpose or future best self, we ignore the reality that self-acceptance begins with being present today. Acknowledging who we are today – all of our strengths, passions, fears, and erroneous choices – is as pure as putting up a mirror to our face and saying “hello best self, how are you today?”
Living your life on purpose is so much more joyful than searching for your purpose. Living for today and experiencing first hand (instead of being on autopilot looking for something better) how your physical existence is expanded within the context of where you are, whom you are with, that’s a life lived.>
And isn’t that the purpose of being here? Look in the mirror right now and say hello to your best self today. She isn’t some elusive figure that you have to strategically build and mold like clay. She’s been waiting to say hello to you for a while now.
Take her out on a coffee date – chat and get to know each other.
Now that you’ve met your best self, what is she like? Describe her in the comments below and share her with the world.
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